Episode 17 — Let’s Be Honest…

Episode 17: Let’s Be Honest…

Questions, questions, questions

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:07

Hey guys, grab your coffee, ump in your heart, and welcome to A lot to sip on where it's real life, real faith, one cup at a time. Alright, so we're jumping in this tonight, and I know we usually do things uh pretty mostly serious for the most part on here, but tonight we're gonna break it up a little bit and kind of show who we really are, you know. Okay, so we're gonna do answers some questions. We're gonna pop them up on each other, and they're gonna we're gonna start off with funnier questions.

SPEAKER_00 0:41

We are not responsible for the answers that are about to come out of our mouths. We do have a less serious, more funny side, so we are not responsible for those answers. I'm not responsible for my answers. Okay, you can take full responsibility for yours.

SPEAKER_01 0:58

Okay, and then after the funnier questions, we're gonna go to a little more serious questions. Alright, so first up, this is a Dowgone no-brainer.

SPEAKER_00 1:10

Dowgone. Love the country.

SPEAKER_01 1:13

Who's more likely to keep talking 30 minutes after church? More like an hour and 30, but that would be Brady Richard Lloyd.

SPEAKER_00 1:23

Definitely me.

SPEAKER_01 1:24

Holy Moses.

SPEAKER_00 1:25

I do enjoy talking to folks. I love to talk to my church people, get to know them.

SPEAKER_01 1:31

Don't just let him say he just likes to talk to his church people.

SPEAKER_00 1:35

I do. I like to know what's going on.

SPEAKER_01 1:37

Stranger.

SPEAKER_00 1:38

Oh, I never meet a stranger, and that's a good thing. You never know. You never know who needs to just be talked to. You know, somebody might be going through through something. There's people at church that feel like people don't talk to them enough, and they are not gonna be able to say that Brady Lott. I make sure to talk to as many people as I can.

SPEAKER_01 2:03

Indeed. You got a question for me?

SPEAKER_00 2:05

The other day, um, our pastor listen at him.

SPEAKER_01 2:08

Listen at him, listen.

SPEAKER_00 2:10

The other day, our pastor told us to get up and shake our neighbor's hand. Boy, I went at it. I started at one side of the church with saying hello, welcome, and everybody. I think I shook just about everybody's hand. And by the time everybody got finished, he looked down at me on the front and said, Well, I think you got it figured out, Brady.

SPEAKER_01 2:30

Indeed. He does. He don't need no help in that area. All righty, so we got it down.

SPEAKER_00 2:37

Next question Which one of us acts the holiest during an argument?

SPEAKER_01 2:42

Brady. Listen, he pops up that junk with me with you shouldn't fear. Fear is not of the Lord. Where's your faith at? I can't tell y'all how many times he'll pop up that. Where's your faith? I'm like, I could throw a punch.

SPEAKER_00 2:59

It's biblical.

SPEAKER_01 3:00

Okay.

unknown 3:01

It is.

SPEAKER_01 3:02

I understand it's biblical, but like with just a normal situation that anybody would be a little nervous about, where's your faith?

SPEAKER_00 3:10

No. Not just anybody. Not just anybody. You are a little over the top with some things, just so terrified. You come up with these thoughts in your mind, like somebody's just after us. And we are in hillbilly country, the middle of nowhere. Ain't nobody hardly know us or after us.

SPEAKER_01 3:32

Oh, that that question is 100% braiding. 100%. All right. Next is who takes longer getting ready for church?

SPEAKER_00 3:43

Well, that depends. It depends on if you're talking about a single person or just a both of our routines. Sometimes it takes me longer, but I'm getting me and a kid ready and bathing her back. And all for you, mama. Naturally, though, single person, Emily definitely takes the longest to get ready.

SPEAKER_01 4:06

I take the longest even when you're getting elephants ready. Oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_00 4:10

Most of the time. But sometimes you get ready before I finish her.

SPEAKER_01 4:14

That's if you lay in bed for like an hour longer.

SPEAKER_00 4:20

Yeah. Definitely.

SPEAKER_01 4:22

That's definitely.

SPEAKER_00 4:23

Alrighty, what's the next one? Um, what church phrase do you overuse? Oh Lord. Church phrase. Um church phrase, church phrase. I don't really know of a church phrase that I overuse. I mean, I'm sure there's definitely some phrases I overuse.

SPEAKER_01 4:43

I know one thing, one phrase Brady overuses as a preacher.

SPEAKER_02 4:48

What's that?

SPEAKER_01 4:51

Drumroll, please. In closing. Yeah. Sight! He's gonna say that 50-11 times before he really closes. Yeah, for sure. That's that's Brady. In closing. Alright, I'm back before I close.

SPEAKER_00 5:09

Let me mention this and then I'll close.

SPEAKER_01 5:11

Oh man. He's gonna say every one of the closing phrases before he truly closes.

SPEAKER_00 5:16

I say that usually about three, maybe four times. You know, well, you know, when the Lord leads you, you just gotta follow. I can't lie, I do say that a lot, definitely when I'm preaching. Because, you know, you just put going at it and you feel like it's the end of a mess, and then God gives you like something else, you know, for you to give to the stive to the church people. But anyhow, I I will. I can't really think of a phrase that you use a lot. I really definitely can't. Alright, what's the next one?

SPEAKER_01 5:54

Is it my turn? Okay. If our marriage had a worship song title, what would it be?

SPEAKER_00 6:09

Well, I'm on the battle here.

SPEAKER_01 6:16

We do be going through some things sometimes.

SPEAKER_00 6:18

Yeah, not us as a couple, but um like us together. Um life has definitely through a a lot of different challenges at us. It's it's definitely been a been a battle for sure. But um, I would probably say if we had to have a song.

SPEAKER_01 6:34

I feel the joy of the Lord. That's our song. I feel like we try our best to fill our marriage with joy.

SPEAKER_00 6:42

Yes, we do. And definitely uh what's that song? Uh Has it go the oh I can't remember her name.

SPEAKER_02 6:51

You're an overcomer.

SPEAKER_00 6:53

I heard that we'll be overcoming some stuff. Oh man, we'd be going through it. But just life just hits us left and right. But we always do somehow come out. Thank the Lord. If it wasn't for him, Lord and mercy, we'd be in a mess. Alrighty, so next one. Um, which one of us would survive better as a youth pastor? Well, that's crazy because we're both changing that, yeah. We're both youth youth pastors.

SPEAKER_01 7:20

Which one would do better as a lead pastor?

SPEAKER_00 7:24

Lead pastor.

SPEAKER_01 7:26

Hmm. Not me. I don't think I don't think me because um I'm not as social as Brady. And I definitely feel like as a lead pastor, like artists, one thing they're gonna do is they're gonna talk to you.

SPEAKER_00 7:45

Yep.

SPEAKER_01 7:46

And um, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 7:47

I'm more of a I also feel like I'm a very old-fashioned.

SPEAKER_01 7:51

Yes, he is very old-fashioned.

SPEAKER_00 7:53

I'm like an old man on the inside, very old-fashioned. Um I'm also not bragging, not bragging, because I love my wife and she is very wise, but I also have a lot of wisdom.

SPEAKER_01 8:06

Um, listen to your being an old man.

SPEAKER_00 8:10

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Most people think I'm like, I'm only 23, and most people think I'm like late 30s. Early, I had a guy tell me the other day I looked like I was 40. I was like, Ouch. Ouch. Do I really look that old? And he's like, Well, you're just really mature. I was like, Well, that doesn't mean that I'm old just because I act mature. Anywho. Alright.

SPEAKER_01 8:33

The next one is what's the funniest thing that's happened to us at church? Oh my gosh. Okay, so I got one. Um, I don't even know if we were together this time. At this time, but I was they had called me up to sing. And my legs were asleep when I stood up, and I fell at the front of the church. I mean, it wasn't funny in the moment, but like I tried to get up so fast and I literally couldn't because I was literally jello. Like, my legs were dead, dead asleep, and I just fell right there. And it wasn't in the spirit, honey. It was because my legs were asleep. So that, yeah, that was embarrassing, really embarrassing.

SPEAKER_00 9:19

Well, I'll go ahead and put this out there because I know somebody's gonna be scared to say it, but it is hilarious when one of us on that stage. Whether it's if you know anybody knows because I'll be honest, sitting behind them drums, it's happened before. Oh boy, and we got some fans on that stage, and man.

SPEAKER_01 9:45

You just know, oh boy, it's it's been a hitty. It's about the hitting.

SPEAKER_02 9:53

Oh boy, yeah, that's funny. Oh man.

SPEAKER_01 9:56

And I mean, some of them up there, they ain't ashamed, honey. They will hype that leg and let it go. And I'm thinking, oh my gosh, like, what in the world? That ain't no shame in their game. Anywho, Lord have mercy. Our church is getting exposed tonight. Alrighty.

SPEAKER_00 10:19

But anywho.

SPEAKER_01 10:20

Here go.

SPEAKER_00 10:21

Oh, uh, my bad. Who's more likely to accidentally gossip while calling it a prayer request than a belief?

SPEAKER_01 10:30

What? You like the tea, honey, and you like to keep it hot.

SPEAKER_00 10:35

I don't know. Um, accidentally gossip. I don't know. I feel like you'd slip up before I would. Like kind of spilling it. Accidentally spill the tea.

SPEAKER_01 10:47

Oh, I wasn't supposed to say that. Yeah, I probably would. Because sometimes, I'm gonna be honest with you, I don't think before I say something. Sometimes it just comes out and I'm like, well, that wasn't a good idea to say.

SPEAKER_02 10:58

Oh boy.

SPEAKER_01 11:01

We're gonna do one more. The most likely to cry during worship.

SPEAKER_00 11:06

Absolutely you.

SPEAKER_01 11:09

Boy, when it hits me mid song, and I'm like, oh, somebody better take over real quick because the tears, the floodgates are fixing a bus wide open. And they will, let me tell you. And thankfully, I got a crew that'll pick up where I left off. But yeah, that's me a hundred percent. I'm gonna cry. Every single service.

SPEAKER_00 11:28

And not should cry even if it ain't a service.

SPEAKER_01 11:31

Yeah, oh shoot.

SPEAKER_00 11:33

She's tenderhearted. Everything.

SPEAKER_01 11:37

And the thing about it is, like, you know, I can't just cry with a cute little face on. No. No. My face is gonna smoosh up. I'm gonna have the crying face, like ugly cry. Yeah, I got the ugly cry. Definitely. Definitely. All right, well, that's gonna wrap up those questions. We're gonna go to we're just gonna do a couple of our vulnerable real life questions. So what is one struggle that you would say we overcame together?

SPEAKER_00 12:08

Parenthood. Definitely parenthood. Absolutely.

SPEAKER_01 12:11

Because I'm not I mean, we struggled, especially during pregnancy and stuff. It was hard. Um just just married. Uh our first home.

SPEAKER_00 12:21

Yeah, remodeling a house.

SPEAKER_01 12:23

Yes, remodeling a house in the middle of pregnancy. Do not recommend.

SPEAKER_00 12:27

Yeah, don't recommend at all.

SPEAKER_01 12:29

I would definitely say that's the the number one. And kind of family issues, that was a big thing that we've overcame.

SPEAKER_00 12:35

And some family issues well.

SPEAKER_01 12:38

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 12:38

That was that was definitely a struggle. That was probably the toughest struggle I've ever been through. And um Yeah, it was it was rough. Yeah. Um We I will say, even though it was a struggle, it did make us get closer together. Through the struggle. It definitely made me rely more on Emily and Emily on me as well. Um, but yeah, that was that was definitely probably the hardest thing, which is parenthood, new marriage, new house, all that coming together at one time. That was definitely something a struggle to overcome. But um another one is alright, so how do we reconnect after hard seasons? What you think?

SPEAKER_01 13:32

I kind of feel like we I wouldn't say that we disconnect very often at all. Even through hard seasons, I feel like that's one of the times that we try to stay as close knit as possible.

SPEAKER_02 13:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 13:46

Um but I do there are times where we may drift apart a little bit. And I feel like the way that we come back together is we bring sorry, we bring one another back down to earth and we communicate deep with one another. Like one of the those situations of like you have no choice but to open up to me. You know, like talk to me about what you're feeling, and we will get out, we'll get through it, we'll get past it, you know.

SPEAKER_00 14:11

Oh yeah. I definitely think that usually after definitely a hard season or just after there's a time where you or me feel like, you know, we need to kind of sit down for a second. We usually we do like to we'll go out, you know, or pretty much just spend like some quality, just a long time together. Nobody around, no family around, nobody to, you know, distract you or to you know pull your attention away. Um, even if it's just riding down a dirt road together, like definitely after those seasons, we definitely like to uh reconnect and just spend a little quality time together, definitely whether it's just riding roads or going fishing or going on a date, whatever the case is, you know.

SPEAKER_01 14:58

All right. Uh next one is what's something people don't see behind the scenes of a marriage?

SPEAKER_00 15:04

Oh boy. There's a lot of things people don't see behind the scenes of a marriage. The things you don't see are the struggles. There's a there's a lot of times you see people on the outside. Um, and I, you know, even people see our marriage and they're like, oh, your marriage is so beautiful, it's so perfect. And in my eyes, yes, it's perfect. But that doesn't mean there aren't struggles. That doesn't mean that there aren't just tough conversations that we have to have with each other. That doesn't mean that we don't have to, you know, kind of put one another in each other's place when the time comes, because there are times when, you know, I have to put Emily in her place, she has to put me in my place, and that's not just the easiest thing to do, especially like I don't I don't like to hurt Emily's feelings, but I mean there's times when she needs to be brought back down to earth. Same with me. And um yeah, there's definitely I feel like people just look at the outside and like there's definitely struggles that go on within a marriage. There's definitely arguments and tough conversations, and I I won't even say like arguments as a bad thing, but just you know, speaking to one another, communication. And there there are like tough times, tough conversations, tough communication, I call it, you know, things that you have to discuss with your spouse that maybe you really don't want to, but you have to because they're your spouse, you know. I feel like that's that's a big thing that people don't see. It's kind of like people see on social media and they look at these families and they're like, oh, they're so perfect, their couples are so perfect, and I'm this is what I want to be. And if it's not like that, then I don't want it. But what you don't see is all the tough things, the struggles, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 16:39

And like one another thing that uh something behind the scenes is you don't see the prayer and the cost of the whole that goes into a marriage. Yes. Like into other people's marriages. Yeah, like some people it takes a whole lot of praying for your spouse.

SPEAKER_02 16:54

Um Absolutely.

SPEAKER_01 16:55

And eat like even if it like not even negative things, like we have to pray for one another daily, like just to just for encouragement or just for uplifting, whatever the case may be. You don't you don't understand the cost of the oil for some of the marriages. And and that's just one of the behind the scenes things that people don't always see.

SPEAKER_00 17:20

So what's uh what's one thing that the enemy is trying to use against us that God turned around? I know my answer was yours.

SPEAKER_01 17:37

Tell me your answer.

SPEAKER_00 17:38

I know you first, I asked you first.

SPEAKER_01 17:46

I don't think I would say family.

SPEAKER_00 17:48

Absolutely, that was mine. Um the enemy is definitely trying to use our family. Um use uh use our family against us. And um it's crazy how much God can work, and it's crazy how God can turn things around. Um and although things may not be perfect, they're better. That's right. Yes, but he has definitely tried to use our family against us. You know, on on on both sides. Yeah. Yeah, my family, your family. There's been there's been struggles, there's been heartaches, there's been very, very tough conversations, there's been arguments, um, there's been, you know, some heartache, some real talk, but I would definitely say that we are past most of that. Um and thank God we are. But that is definitely one of the things.

SPEAKER_01 18:41

I feel like the way that the Lord turned that for good is He made us depend fully on one another.

SPEAKER_02 18:48

On one another.

SPEAKER_01 18:48

That's that's one thing I feel like so many marriages struggle with is they try to bring the in-laws in. They try to like um if I tried to bring my mom and daddy in on our marriage problems or um just just bring them in on our marriage in gener general, so many people do that nowadays with their parents, like you know, my mom and daddy will always be my mom and daddy, but they will never be my spouse.

SPEAKER_02 19:15

Right.

SPEAKER_01 19:16

And y I've heard this so many times that your parents love you because they're your parents.

SPEAKER_02 19:22

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_01 19:23

But my spouse loves me because they chose me. You know, my parents didn't choose to be my parents.

SPEAKER_00 19:29

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 19:29

That was I was just born to them. Not saying that in a negative way, but I chose my spouse. My spouse chose to love me.

SPEAKER_00 19:39

I love my siblings because they're my siblings.

SPEAKER_01 19:44

Right. I love him because I love him because I chose him. And I feel like so many marriages get get that so twisted nowadays that even even the in-laws may feel like, or not necessarily in-laws, like I'm talking, my in-laws, Brady's in-laws, both sides of the families. Sometimes like maybe they feel like they can step in on some tough conversations, but it's like, no, it's not their place to. And that has definitely, definitely, we've learned that I feel like so much through this first year of marriage. And I'm grateful that we've learned that so far. I'm grateful that you know the the hard times they were tough in the moment, but now that I look back, I'm like, I'm glad we had that in the first year. So now for the years to come, we know exactly that we can handle this, that we've got this, that we will get victory.

SPEAKER_00 20:36

And I will say this, and um not not, you know, beating your or my-in-laws or your in-laws, my parents, or parents, but this is just to anybody who has children who are married. Um, I will say this. If they are married and they are trying to live right for God, do not try to run the marriage. Do not try to run your children's marriage, because what you'll do is ruin your relationship with that child. Yes. Because I feel like so many parents, and like I said, not even our family. I've seen this outside of our family, but I see parents who call themselves helping their children and they end up hurting that relationship because honestly, it doesn't hurt to give advice, but how you give it. It don't hurt to give advice, but trying to run the marriage, no, that doesn't work. You're not part of that marriage, you're not, you know, the husband spouse and have their children, they have a whole new family now. Like of course, you'll always be you'll always be part of that extended family, but when two people come together, they are now a family. They just created their own family. When they get together, become a couple, get married, have children, they are one family. Alrighty. You are no longer like it or not. Whether you like it or not, you're no longer part of that family. Family. Now, I'm not saying they're not family because you know, my family's humongous, your family's humongous, but our little three here is our family. And I don't consider anybody else part of our family. And this is what I like to call our immediate family. Yeah. I like to call everybody else extended family. You know, they're in the family. I'm grateful for that extended family. Oh, yes, most definitely. Most definitely.

SPEAKER_01 22:26

There are but yes. But that's it. That it's definitely one thing. Um back to that question that the enemy tried to use against us and God did turn it around was family. Um and we're grateful that he turned it around. We're so thankful for that. Uh I'm grateful that we learned so much through that trial. We do so much. And we get to, you know, use that. We get to teach our daughter from it. And that's that's one thing that's gonna be hard is whenever she grows up and it's her time to move on with a husband and you know, not having my baby girl at my side and me doing everything for her.

SPEAKER_00 23:05

That's yeah, it's gonna be tough, but at the end of the day, but if you raised them, you know, and you pointed them towards God and you kept them filled up, you know, as as much as you could, then you've done your job.

SPEAKER_01 23:18

Let them go, yeah. They got to leave the nest.

SPEAKER_00 23:21

At one point, you have to let your children go do things and partake in life itself. Because what happens that I've seen in my experience is if you try to be overbearing and you try to, you know, do everything for your children, um, like I've seen in other families, you know, they try to in a good way, they try to help their children in every way that they see possible, but then they try to run their children and it ends up not preparing them for the real world. Yeah. Because when they get to the real world, then they're expecting somebody's gonna help me here. Somebody's gonna help me there. And yeah, life doesn't give you handouts. Family does, and thank God for family, but life doesn't give you handouts. And I just I mean, it it is tough, and I I I can only imagine when the day comes when little Ellie Roo here wants to step out and do her own thing, and I'm gonna have to learn to shut my mouth and let her do it. And uh it's gonna be hard.

SPEAKER_01 24:27

It's gonna be hard. It's all part of it.

SPEAKER_00 24:29

But that is ex that's exactly right. That is all part of it. I've done my part, I've been a father, a godly father. I've kept her in church, and I've witnessed her about God and given her all of my knowledge, and there's nothing else I can do.

unknown 24:44

Yep.

SPEAKER_01 24:45

But that's gonna wrap up our questions tonight, and we will, fingers crossed, be back talking to y'all next week. So we'll catch y'all then.