Episode 14 — POV: Life HITS

Episode 14: 

POV: Life HITS

And when it hits, it comes swinging!

All in all, we’re so blessed and grateful for this beautiful, busy life we’ve been gifted. Thank you, Jesus!🤍

We may not have it all together, but together, we have it all🫶🏼

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:07

Hey you guys, grab your coffee, open your heart, and welcome to A Lot to Sip On where it's real life, real faith, one cup at a time.

SPEAKER_02 0:15

What's up, guys? So we wanted to come back to you tonight and do another podcast, episode 14. Alrighty, so tonight we're gonna be doing something, uh, I don't know, maybe it's relatable. Hopefully it's relatable to you as much as it is to us. Um, but nobody really tells you the exact moment you stop kind of feeling like a kid, but you definitely feel it when it comes, for sure. Um, and I'm sure there was definitely a moment where me and Emily looked at each other and thought, uh yeah, life just got very real. Alrighty, so uh with that being said, we just want to kind of relate to you out there, listeners. Um, maybe you can relate to us, but we wanted to kind of relate to y'all. I figured this would be interesting yet relatable. So we just want to ask some questions back and forth to one another. Um but when, Emily, when do you think when do you think um it actually hit you that we're, you know, actually adults?

SPEAKER_00 1:21

Um, I think there's two scenarios going through my head right now, and they are completely different from one another. Um, the first one I've got would definitely be whenever I saw that plus sign on a test.

SPEAKER_02 1:38

Yep. That was mine.

SPEAKER_00 1:39

I was like, oh no, we gotta get our big b boy and girl panties on and get on with it, because life is coming. Full send, honey. Yeah, that was definitely mine. And the other one that I was thinking about, oh Jesus. I know several people can relate to this, but man, when that first house payment came out of that bank account, yes. Oh, I was like, Brady. Honey, what just happened?

SPEAKER_02 2:08

Are we gonna survive?

SPEAKER_00 2:09

Yeah, literally.

SPEAKER_02 2:10

That was you sure we're gonna be able to make it? Yeah, mine would definitely be at the very top of the list number one uh was when we, you know, turned that test over and it said pregnant. I was like, oh.

SPEAKER_00 2:25

And if I'm being honest with you, my first thought was, oh no. Like, I wasn't ready for that.

SPEAKER_02 2:31

Oh, no, no, no.

SPEAKER_00 2:32

You know, you're never, you're never ready. You're never ready to be an adult.

SPEAKER_02 2:37

Yeah. I mean Which I mean, we were adults before then, but boy, it really got real then.

SPEAKER_00 2:43

Oh man. That's the moment that it really hit me.

SPEAKER_02 2:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 2:47

And moving out of my mom and daddy's house, oh boy, that was a that was a big thing. It was like, I'm not under their wings anymore. I'm a big girl now. Like that was a that was a punch in the gut.

SPEAKER_02 2:59

Yeah, we definitely wasn't ready but for a little Ellie Rue, but we're glad to have her now. Oh yeah, boy, at first when I seen that, I was like, oh no. Because I remember we had a plan, and you know just got married and wanted to stick to that plan, and but ooh, pregnant. Yeah, it definitely things went sideways then, uh, for sure. But we are so, so, so grateful for now, for sure. Um, but yeah, another one was definitely probably our first month when we started, you know, moved into the house coming and started paying bills, yes. You you start paying bills, you start realizing holy crap, they never stop coming. They just keep on.

SPEAKER_00 3:45

Um, we're friends with such older people that like pretty much at this point in their life kind of have their lives together. And they seem like, you know, looking at from the outside that they're never struggling. But I want you to know if you're just starting out, or even if you're not just starting out, it's okay to live paycheck to paycheck. I mean, that's where we're being honest. This is real life here. That's where we're at right now. We're living paycheck to paycheck. And I mean, it's okay because the bills are paid, everybody's fed, you know, we're doing it.

SPEAKER_02 4:16

We never go lacking.

SPEAKER_00 4:17

That's right.

SPEAKER_02 4:17

We're tight.

SPEAKER_00 4:20

Indeed. But I do want to stress that to people though, like, don't think just because some other family looks like they have it together and you're going paycheck to paycheck, don't think that, you know, you're any f a bit of behind because I mean, let's face it, you don't know how many credit cards those people have either uh that they're racking up on. So just keep that in mind as you look out, you know, in the world and see that because I mean, people's gonna paint that pretty picture, but in reality, this family right here, honey, we go on paycheck to paycheck, and that is okay because we are blessed, we're not lacking, we're not going without, and that's a blessing in itself.

SPEAKER_02 4:58

Yeah. So what about um like I know like before we got married, let's just say let's go back to the proposal. Um, like when it comes to serious decisions, was any of those decisions kind of like, oh man, life's getting real?

SPEAKER_00 5:14

Like when I was like, When I said yes to marrying you, that was a like a moment to get married. Like, this is something I've thought about since I was a little kid, you know, walking around the house with a bed sheet tied on me being my wedding dress. Like, it was it was in those moments that you know, here here it is. I my time is here. I'm not gonna be wearing that bed sheet walking around the house. I'm gonna be wearing a white gown, you know.

SPEAKER_02 5:40

Yeah, that's it. I will say it it hit me also kind of hard when like when it when I say bigger decisions, definitely when I proposed. Um, I was like, man, life is about to get real. It's about to get real.

SPEAKER_00 5:55

Like, did you have any like, oh, like holy moly? Like, I'm gonna go.

SPEAKER_02 5:58

Kind of like a gut-wrenching feeling. It's like, oh man, I'm I'm actually about to about to marry somebody. I'm about to propose this girl. Lord, I hope she said yes. No, I was I was almost certain you would say yes. But there's a little bit of doubt there. Um so that like I said, there was also bigger decisions like um I'll say this when it came to um starting to uh oh man, I just lost my words. Um the the house, making decisions with the house when I started to get the mortgage from the house um and learn how all that kind of works. Listen, that stuff ain't taught in school. I'm you know how interest works, how you know banks work with loans, mortgages, how your mortgage works, the interest, the principal, you know, all that good stuff. I didn't understand much of anything. And I was walking in this bank and you know prayer, honey. Living on I mean a serious prayer too, and not to mention it was like right after we found out you were pregnant, and so then I'm like, holy moly, I seriously have to find a house. Like I can't just I can't just kind of like take my time.

SPEAKER_00 7:17

My daddy's with a baby.

SPEAKER_02 7:19

Yeah, I can't just kind of like take my time looking. No, I had to have something then, and like you remember this house that our house, you know, it was up for auction. And I remember uh getting with my realtor and it was like the last moments of the bid, and there was apparently some other uh investor like bidding on it, and I remember like, holy moly, how am I gonna do this? Oh my god. And this guy just keeps outbidding me, and then I outbid him. He outbids me again. I outbid race, it was crazy. And I mean, like, this was within like two or three minutes left of this of this bidding going on. And I know I was just praying like Jesus, Jesus, please let him stop, bidding. He's just making my rate go up, he's just making my payment go up. God, please let him stop. And uh, I remember I bidded like one more time, and I was like, All right, such as you know, I told my real child, I was like, I'm done. And um I remember, and he went up one more time, and I was like, I I I think I'm through. And and she's like, Well, you've already come this far. I mean, let's let's just be real. Uh, fifteen hundred dollars, you know, ain't much of nothing. She's like, This house is still well within, you know, um, as far as like when you remodel it, the equity and all that. She's like, You're still way within range. And um, anyhow, I remember I was like, All right, one more time, but after this, I'm done. And finally, you know, he didn't he didn't outbid me on that one. He finally quit and we bought the house. I remember, I mean, that was like, oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_00 8:51

I can remember Brady texting me, we're at this, we're at this, and I'm like, Stop, what are you doing? Like, that is no, you've got to quit. Like, we can't go anyhow.

SPEAKER_02 9:00

But we had to have somewhere to live, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 9:01

We did have mercy, and it's been a blessing. Yeah, it's just perfect for us, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 9:06

And um, alrighty, so let's get a little deeper then. Um, so what about as far as uh how do you think we've come so far as far as maturing with communication, per se, not really arguments or but maybe disagreements, you know? Yeah. Um just having to talk things out.

SPEAKER_00 9:26

Thank the Lord. I know it we haven't been married for a long time, but thank the Lord, I I don't think we've ever truly had a serious big argument like Yeah. No.

SPEAKER_02 9:40

Um We've always just kind of taught it out. Yeah. Before it began to be able to do it.

SPEAKER_00 9:43

Now at the beginning, I'm gonna tell you, we would not communicate for nothing. We'd just kind of like brush it off and be butthurt for a little bit and not say anything. And that's I think when problems definitely begin to arise is when you do not talk about them. And as adults, like, come on now. You're old enough to have a conversation, so have it. And I think that's a big thing um that we finally figured out, and that is definitely a way that we matured in our marriage is by communicating. Because if you're not communicating with your spouse, what are you doing? How's anything gonna get solved? How's anything gonna get better if you're not talking, communicating, solving problems with your spouse? And whenever you do talk and communicate, y'all remember this is real life. Juicy boots getting sleepy. But whenever you do talk and communicate, remember your tone. Remember how you speak to one another. That is a huge thing in communication is the way that you speak, the way that you talk. If you're if you got an ugly tone, if I have an ugly tone, somebody's quick to give me that eyebrow raise and I know that I better calm it down. Um, and same to him. I'm just gonna give him a look uh and he knows like, okay, maybe I'm getting a little spicy here and I need to tool it. Um, but that is just something that works for us. Um what about uh being a good tone?

SPEAKER_02 11:09

Alrighty, so when did you realize let's take it back just a little bit? When did you realize that you know the relationship that we had was becoming something kind of, you know, serious and and long lasting?

SPEAKER_00 11:22

Like when we were dating.

SPEAKER_02 11:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 11:26

I think whenever you went on our first family vacation, I was like OMG, I've got a m somebody going on vacation. Like that sounds silly. And no, we did not sleep in the same room. No, but um, that was that was a big deal. It was like, oh my gosh, like that's my boyfriend's on vacation with me. This might be my husband.

SPEAKER_02 11:55

It got at me then too. I was like, oh man, this is this is getting serious. I ain't never done this before. You know, like like that was a first. Yeah. Going with, you know, a my girlfriend and her family on a vacation, like that was something different. I was like, oh man, that's getting serious.

SPEAKER_00 12:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 12:11

Finally got to hold my hand then, too.

SPEAKER_00 12:13

Oh my gosh, yes. That was how many months? Five months?

SPEAKER_02 12:17

Mm-hmm. Four or five, somewhat.

SPEAKER_00 12:20

Four, I think four. Four, four months until this man finally held my hand. Like we was walking around Universal Studios. This is funny, and we would be bumping into each other's hands. And in my head, I'm thinking, if this guy don't grab my doggone hand, like what is he waiting on? And then he's thinking the same exact thing. And I'm like, honey, I ain't thinking to grab nobody's hand first. He better get me.

SPEAKER_02 12:47

Like, there was seriously, there was times like I'd bump into your hand like on purpose, like thinking, oh, she'll hold my hand in a second. Like, she'll grab my hand and say, She never did.

SPEAKER_00 12:56

And it was the sweetest thing because late one night while I was in the shower, him and my best friend Aislin, they were talking, sister-in-law now, but they were talking and Brady was like, What is what a deal?

SPEAKER_01 13:08

Hold my hand. Oh my hand.

SPEAKER_00 13:09

And Aislin was like, She's waiting on you. And finally, it was the day that we were literally going.

SPEAKER_02 13:15

The next day.

SPEAKER_00 13:16

Yes. And he we was at a red light right beside the resort, and he held his hand out, and I was like, Oh, yes, finally. Like, he's got to hold my hand.

SPEAKER_02 13:27

Only we could have done this at the beginning of the vacation, not leaving.

SPEAKER_00 13:31

Yes, he was like, I didn't know you was waiting on me. I've been waiting on you.

SPEAKER_02 13:35

Oh man.

SPEAKER_00 13:36

I but I've always been like, I ain't making the first move now. So that was that was it.

SPEAKER_02 13:41

Was then I realized she's not making the first move on anything. Anything.

SPEAKER_00 13:47

I said I love you first. I shouldn't.

SPEAKER_02 13:50

Oh no, we was about to say it at the same time.

SPEAKER_00 13:52

Oh, I said it first. I said it first.

SPEAKER_02 13:56

Okay, okay. I'll give you that one.

SPEAKER_00 13:59

I did. And that wasn't until five months.

SPEAKER_02 14:02

Five months.

SPEAKER_00 14:03

Yep.

SPEAKER_02 14:04

Six months finally came the first little kiss.

SPEAKER_00 14:06

Yep.

SPEAKER_02 14:08

Boy, it was quick. It was quick.

SPEAKER_00 14:09

It was like a bye. I don't think there was even a bye after. It was like I'm getting in my car, and y'all, I could just picture him going down my driveway, just, whoa! I thought they kissed my girl, you know, celebrating.

SPEAKER_02 14:24

I was like a kid in a candy store.

SPEAKER_00 14:27

And y'all, mind you, we were 21, 20, 21. Yeah. How old were we?

SPEAKER_02 14:32

21, I think.

SPEAKER_00 14:34

Oh. I think it was 21. How old are we now?

SPEAKER_02 14:38

23.

SPEAKER_00 14:38

23.

SPEAKER_02 14:39

So it may have been 20.

SPEAKER_00 14:42

I think it was 20. No, we were 20 years old and still acting like 12 year olds.

SPEAKER_02 14:46

So yeah. Which I mean, we had knew each other for years before that. And you know, we had hung out, but we never dated.

SPEAKER_00 14:52

It was sweet. It was precious. I would not trade it for the world. Like, if I could go back, I would not change any of that. It was all perfect timing.

SPEAKER_02 15:01

There wasn't nothing about that kiss dancing, but done.

SPEAKER_00 15:04

Yeah. But it was like I can remember going to my room with the biggest smile, like, finally, yes. But speaking about timing, I want to go ahead and jump to all of this, like when you realize you're an adult, when you're you're going through it, you're sometimes you may think that it's you know going too fast, sometimes you think that it's going too slow, but it is always in God's perfect timing. And that is definitely how our marriage has been, how our dating, uh being engaged, all of it has been in his perfect timing. And even when we were thinking, like, no, like this is not going by my plan, like what is going on? It still worked out into his perfect timing.

SPEAKER_02 15:50

It is so um here's something else that um I I think is kind of funny, but it's a question, so you know, I feel like we're we're older now. You know, I look at us now and I think we're like, you know, just oldies, you know, like grandma, grandpa here, and we're still 23 years old. But I I and this is funny, but here's my question, you and I'll tell you mine, but when did you figure out like well now I'm just a you know, I'm definitely a boring adult now. Because mine was when I got so psyched and excited about having a big kitchen sink. When my kitchen sink I mean, I was like, you know what? I'm definitely an adult when I get excited about my appliances more than I do anything else. I'm like, yes, I got a big sink.

SPEAKER_00 16:44

I think mine was this is recent that this happened, but my flower beds, like they have made me the happiest girl in the world, and it's like okay, this is my nanny Barbara coming out of it. Like, I'm being my my nanny. Like, this is just bringing me so much joy was a flower bed.

SPEAKER_02 17:06

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 17:07

That's definitely my thing. A flower bed and a walk-in closet. Oh my mercy.

SPEAKER_02 17:11

Yeah, that walk-in closet is nice.

SPEAKER_00 17:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 17:13

But it's just funny to me because like we used to, you know, we used to do so much. We used to go out and do stuff, and now it's like we're home and it's like I'm happy just staying here at the house. Yeah. And uh not only that, but like even like going to bed. I remember when I was younger, I could stay up till one, two o'clock in the morning. And it wouldn't phase me one bit. If I stayed up till two o'clock in the morning now, you wouldn't be able to get me out of the bed the next morning.

SPEAKER_00 17:41

That's I was literally just saying this at the table in there when we were eating supper, that like I I can't I can't hang anymore. Like ten o'clock, honey. I'm ready to close my eyes and go to bed.

SPEAKER_02 17:53

Yeah. No, you ready before then.

SPEAKER_00 17:55

Well, true, but we ain't gotta speak about that. But yeah, that is definitely one thing where I could, honey, keep the rose hot at a good two, three o'clock in the morning. But now, mm-mm, I'll catch you in the bed at 9 30, 10 o'clock. For sure.

SPEAKER_02 18:14

So, one last thing, and uh we'll try and kind of tie it up. But um oh, oh, I do want to add this though. Do you ever catch yourself now being an adult? Okay, so now you're an adult, you're a mother. Do you ever catch yourself saying things that your parents used to tell you?

SPEAKER_01 18:35

Um I think not.

SPEAKER_00 18:40

I don't I don't think quite yet I I don't. Other than the well with Allison, I can see my I Yes, I'm already saying all the time, oh my gosh, you know, you're growing up so fast. Like I can remember my mama telling us like that when we were kids. Like, you're growing, gosh, you're growing so fast, it feels like I just blinked. And that is definitely one thing I can tell with my baby. Like, I'm literally blinking and boom, she's five pounds heavier. Twenty more rolls on her little body, and I mean I'm loving every second of it, but she's growing like a little weed. That is definitely though the thing that I think I can I think I have though.

SPEAKER_02 19:24

I have caught you know, myself saying just like a couple phrases, you know, that my parents used to tell me when I was younger. Um, especially working with the youth and trying to give them advice and tell them things. I do catch myself sometimes, you know, like picking up some of the things they told me and I'm like, ooh, Breddy, you're getting old.

SPEAKER_01 19:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 19:46

Like I'm 23 years old, but boy.

SPEAKER_00 19:49

Yeah, I can see with that, like with the kit when the youth comes to us about friend problems or something. I'm like, honey, you know, yada yada about your friends, like you're gonna find out who your free true friends are. And I'm like, oh my gosh, Lisa Renee Sol just told me this like seven years ago. Been there. Yeah, I can. I I definitely, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 20:14

So that was one thing that kind of you know, it still sticks out to me now. I'm like, oh boy, yeah, I'm an adult now. Yeah. It sucks. It's it's nice being an adult, but boy, some things are never fun, like bills that keep on coming. Agreed. But anywho, with that being said, um guys, I just want you to realize, you know, um you're never fully ready for life. You're never gonna be fully ready, and that's okay. You know, you you learn as you go throughout life. That's the whole purpose of going through life is learning, gaining wisdom, you know, you're uh gaining knowledge through these experiences. You, you know, people never learn anything if they've never experienced it. That's why, you know, even God may put you through trials and he may put through put you through tests, is because you learn things through that experience. And it's through that experience, you know, you can tell others. You know, you know, when when when I went through things, I if I go through it, I now know how to tell somebody else how to go through it, you know, what to look for, what they need to pay attention to. And um, you know, growth happens when when when you're under under pressure, you know. Uh I mean that's how diamonds are formed, right? That's right. Under a lot, a lot, a lot of a lot of pressure. And that's how we as people grow. You know, we we're we're put under pressure for a reason. God knows that you're strong enough to handle it, and he knows that you can get through it. So of course he's he may put a little pressure on you. You're never gonna be ready, but just be consistent, you know. And just know that he's he's still gonna be there with you no matter what.

SPEAKER_00 21:48

Remember that you're not gonna have control over every situation and um life's g it it is going to get very overwhelming.

SPEAKER_01 21:56

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 21:57

But just keep in mind that, you know, you have a wonderful powerful God to lean on and he will get you through it because he's brought us through many things. Whether it's just bills, like literally, literally Bills, finances, like he brings us through a lot.

SPEAKER_01 22:11

Oh yeah.

SPEAKER_00 22:11

But uh keeping them tithes paid, I'm telling you, pays off in the end.

SPEAKER_02 22:17

You know and here, I I do want to ask this, this is one thing that was on my mind earlier. Um I do want to ask it before we close out, but as you've grown up and as you become an adult, um how would you say that your uh you know, since you're now you're married, you've got a a child, how would you say that your faith has changed?

SPEAKER_00 22:36

Oh man. I feel like my faith has definitely grown stronger because of the trials that we've went through, because of the ups and downs that we go through just with life, my faith has definitely grown because I've witnessed God getting me through the tough times. I've witnessed God getting me through the battles through those valleys that it seems that there's no way out. That the only way I can look is up because I'm already at the bottom. Um that has definitely helped my faith to grow.

SPEAKER_02 23:02

Yeah faith my faith that I will I would definitely say has grown since we've you know gotten married have a baby and I my faith is just it's it's increased exponentially compared to what it used to be because you know used to I would worry about so much and now you know I often catch myself and most people think you know oh it's just a man thing but like seriously if you have my same mindset there's not a whole lot of things that I worry about anymore you know because I'm like oh God's got this yeah if it's if it's a problem.

SPEAKER_00 23:40

That is truly Brady like he if I'm ever like how are we gonna like how are we gonna do this?

SPEAKER_02 23:45

Like what is going to come out of this and he's like baby trust in the Lord where's your faith at and now sometimes I want to knock him out when he says where's your faith at because I'm like now I know I got faith like don't even question that but that he oh man he will send that reminder to you where's your faith at and I'm like shut your face like I got faith leave me alone but it's true and and I'll say as much as I've been through hey where's your faith at that's right I mean you've been right there with me this entire time you've seen the things that we went through the trials that we went through and the Lord brought us through to say that he brought us through every single time you can't tell me that there ain't a God and you can't tell me that I ain't got faith. Because if he brought me through that oh I know he'll get me through this next trial ain't a doubt in my mind about it. And I know you get a little aggravated when I tell you that but it's a good reminder. It is a good reminder.

SPEAKER_00 24:42

So remember keep in mind as we close growing up it's not all about having it figured out it's about trusting God while you're figuring it out. Right and keep in mind that we're all still learning we're still growing but we're doing it together.

SPEAKER_02 24:54

Do it together with your spouse do it together with your family and keep that faith strong alright guys well we're gonna end our podcast we love y'all we're praying for y'all and I really hope y'all enjoy us and I hope y'all continue to pray for us as well and just keep joining back with us. We love y'all see you on the next episode